Find a Love: What Makes Someone Potential Mate Material

You’re ready to find a love that lasts and you want to get into the dating world, but you have questions about what makes someone potential mate material. There are some important signs you should look for as you go out on those first few dates. Between the first through third months, you should be able to tell if the person you’ve been dating is potential mate material. If you’re looking to find that lasting love, you need to move onto the next potential mate if this first person has not measured up to some simple qualifications. If you don’t move on, you’re wasting your time. Of course, there are always exceptions to every rule, but one to three months is a pretty good measure of time to ascertain a compatibility match.

One important quality in a potential mate is honesty. Does this person make eye contact with you while speaking? Eye contact is a way to know someone is telling you the truth. More importantly, looking someone in the eyes while he or she is speaking shows that you care about what this person is discussing and you want to listen. Avoiding eye contact is rude. Looking someone in the eyes while you are speaking shows that you are serious about what you have to say and want to make a connection.

Another quality to be looking for is chemistry. Do you feel an attraction? Can you envision yourself kissing this person? If you can, chances are further physical intimacy will have a spark. If you get along famously, but do not feel that physical connection, this person is not potential date material. You want to be friends with your mate, but you also need to be lovers. If the spark is not there, move on. And yes, if there’s a spark, you will feel it early on in the relationship.

Humor is necessary. You both should enjoy each other’s company and be able to laugh together. If you find a love with this person and become committed, a sense of humor will be necessary to make the relationship a success. The honeymoon period will wear off and you’ll eventually become annoyed at each other and have bad days and will sometimes not want to talk, so having a humor to work through those hard times is essential.

Do you have similar interests and goals with this person? What’s the link that is keeping you emotionally connected? You need to have hobbies that you can work on together or some activities that you both enjoy that can allow you to bond. Unless you both are the same exact personality types and have extremely similar tastes, you’re not going to like everything the same, but in order to make the relationship work, you need to have some connection that allows you to have fun together and learn about each other and mature. Having similar life goals is equally important. For example, do you both want to get married someday? If this potential mate does not want to get married and you do, you’ll see signs of commitment phobia early on. No one is saying that you will know for sure on the first few dates that this person is the one you should marry, but you will get a feel for his or her relationship commitment level and that is a strong indicator of whether or not you’ll have a future with this person.

Have fun while you’re getting to know each other, but don’t wait forever in a dead end relationship if you’re looking to find a love, because you won’t find lasting love there.